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Self-control is the most necessary thing to be learned;
a person may have great spirituality, illumination and piety,
but in the absence of self-control this is nothing. Self-control
also is the way of happiness and peace. Often we hear or
read that persons of great repute in the world for their
spirituality and mysticism do something that astonishes
us very much, or make a quite childish mistake. It is want
of self control that makes them commit a mistake, against
which they themselves have spoken and written many times.
The spiritual student learns self control in three ways:
by postures, by tasawwur – visualization – which
is concentration, and by amal, which is the highest
practice. After this there is samadhi, which is meditation
and which is called by the dervishes masti, it means
illumination, to halt in illumination. The difference between
meditation and concentration is that concentration is done
on a form, on an object, and meditation without form or
object.
Repose and control of the body are taught by postures
and positions. When a person has been still for some time,
he will begin to move. There is no need for him to move
but he moves his foot or arm, or he drums on the table with
his fingers, or chews his lips, or blinks his eyes. The
activity increases more and more until at last a person
jumps in his sleep. When the first sleep comes, he starts
and jumps. To control the activity of the body, to sit quiet
in the postures and positions is the first lesson.
However, there must not be stillness only. If a person
has kept his hands still for a long time and then wishes
to play the piano, he will not be able to. He must make
his fingers active enough to be able to play the piano well.
As much stillness there is, so much activity there must
be.
Sleep and do not sleep. Eat and do not eat. Walk and
do not walk. Speak and do not speak. This means: if you
sleep every night, sometimes do not sleep. If you eat every
day, one day in seven do not eat. If you eat all month long,
one or two days in the month do not eat. This gives a mastery
that you cannot gain by renunciation alone. It does not
mean that you should starve. The body must be given good
food, fresh food, and all its needs must be satisfied. This
is better than that it should always long for what it sees
before it. You must give the body what it needs, but you
must control its needs, and not be controlled by them.
After this comes control of the thoughts, which is the
second step, control of the body coming first. Thousands
of people have found that they can sit in the postures for
hours but cannot keep their mind still. This has to be learned
by degrees. A person cannot control his mind by willing
to think of nothing; that will never be possible. First
let the mind hold whatever thought interests it. Check its
tendency to jump from one thing to another. When you catch
the mind jumping from one thing to another, bring it back
and hold it. You must say: I am greater than my mind, my
will is greater than my mind, and I will make my mind obey
my will.
Then comes mastery of the feelings, of the heart. There
must be no feeling of revenge, of unkindness, of bitterness
against anyone in the heart. When such a feeling comes,
one must say: this is rust coming into my heart. When all
such feelings are cleared off the heart, it becomes like
a mirror. A mirror without rust reflects all that is before
it; then everything divine is reflected in the heart, then
all inspirations, intuitions, impressions come, and what
we call clairvoyance. There is no need to go after such
things; they come of themselves.
After this there is only one thing more to be done; to
keep from the soul all the thoughts that come from others
and all the thoughts and feelings that arise within the
self. Keep away even all feelings of love and goodwill whilst
you are in this meditation; then, as a matter of course,
come ecstasy, rapture, and peace.
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Many people ask: How can we control our thoughts? What
can we do if our thoughts do not obey us? How can we like
a thing, if we dislike it, or dislike it if we like it?
It seems impossible! To a person who has gone beyond likes
and dislikes this sounds like a child's question, because
he does not know of opposites.
The way to gain self-control is first of all to do the
reverse of what your inclination would lead you to do. If
you feel inclined to eat, sometimes do not eat, control
the hunger. If you feel inclined to drink, do not drink,
control the thirst. If you are inclined to sleep, do not
sleep; at another time when you are not inclined to sleep,
sleep. There are a thousand inclinations; each sense has
its inclinations. Do not give way to these inclinations,
each sense has its inclinations. Do not give way to these
inclinations; rule them, that they may not govern you. This
is called by the Yogis hatha yoga, and the Sufis
call it nafs kushi.
I have seen the Nizam of Hyderabad stand for seven or
eight hours, if he wished to stand, although he was a king
and had all the things he wished ready in his house. If
he wished not to sleep, he did not sleep for seven, eight,
nine and ten days. By this he became such a master that
he mastered the secret of curing snakebites. In India there
are many snakes; while the Nizam lived he advertised all
over India, and if anyone was bitten by a snake, people
wired him. When the Nizam said, 'He is well,' the person
was healed.
When one has learned to control one's inclinations, the
second lesson is to govern the inclination in the act. Do
not eat whilst you are eating, do not drink whilst you are
drinking. When a person has learned this, he is master of
the solitude and the crowd. He does not need solitude to
be spiritual; he is spiritual in the crowd too.
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Question: How to gain self-control?
Answer: By doing the reverse of that which is one's inclination
would lead to do. If you are inclined to eat, do not eat;
if you are inclined to drink, do not drink; if you are inclined
to be active, be still; if you are inclined to be still,
be active; if you are inclined to speak, be silent. Eating
is not a sin, but if you sometimes try how long you can
go without eating, it would be good. Drinking is not a sin,
but if you sometimes try to see how long you could go without
drinking, it would be good. Sleeping is not a sin, but if
you sometimes try to see how long you could do without sleeping,
it would be good.
Faqirs take the opposite way. They like what they dislike.
That is the reason why you may read that Mahadeva, Shiva,
drank poison and wore skulls and bones around his neck,
because no one would like to be in a grave among the dead.
A snake is always pictured around his neck. By this conceit,
the ego, the nafs, is crushed. To every little man,
to every boy the faqirs say 'father', thinking, 'He is the
father and I am the son.' To every little woman they say
'mother', thinking, 'She is much greater than I am.' To
all they say, 'I am your servant, I am your humble servant,
your obedient servant.'
Develop the will by slowness of movement, by slowness
of speech, by slowness and control of thought, for activity
tends to make us move faster and faster.
No thought or feeling should arise without our will.
When we have gained mastery over the self, we have mastery
over all things. The saints and sages have commanded a withered
tree to become green. How was it done? By their mastery
over the self.
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The self controlled ones are the only possessors of divine
wisdom; those who have not mastered this in life are imperfect.
Though they may have all the riches, comfort and power,
yet all this is as dross when the self is not under control.
This can be learned by noticing how many virtuous people
are at times drawn into sin, and how foolishly the wise
sometimes act. Dominant natures often become enslaved, and
even the healthy become diseased through lack of self-control.
Self-control is an attribute which distinguishes man
from the animal; both have their appetites and passions,
but it is man alone who can control them. It is therefore
not surprising if Sufis are sometimes seen submitting themselves
to most awkward and uncomfortable practices. At first sight
it may appear strange, yet on closer observation it becomes
obvious that they prescribe this for themselves in order
to gain self-control, which alone gives the assurance of
a dependable and lasting happiness.
Self-control is mainly achieved by abstinence, which
acts against the constant demands of the mind, the senses
and the body. The control over each plane is won gradually
by special practices of pose, posture and movement, adapted
to this purpose. Every motion and action, even each organ
and muscle of the body must work under the control of the
will. All the powers of the body, whether in absorption
or rejection, should be mastered by self-control. For both
absorption and rejection control of the breath is necessary,
and by the same power all things are controlled.
Control of the mind consists of control of imaginations,
thoughts, emotions, and feelings, the vibrations of which
are always ringing in the sphere of the astral plane. The
scattered clouds in the sky join and separate, at every
moment forming various distinct pictures. In like manner
the will – as a magnet – gathers these vibrations in the
astral sphere from different directions, forming them accidentally
or intentionally into a picture which is either a thought,
an imagination, an emotion or a feeling. Just as clouds
do not remain unscattered in the sky, so the pictures formed
in the astral world are liable quickly to be dispersed,
except when the sky is overcast, or when the atmosphere
is overwhelmed with depression or joy.
Vibrations of the same element will group themselves
together, for they are naturally attracted to each other.
Pictures are often impressed upon the mind and are reflected
from the mental plane upon the astral. The vibrations ringing
through the astral sphere may be called, in other words,
the atoms of the mental plane, which are singly or collectively
impressed by the names and forms of the external spheres.
The same vibrations appear as different names, forms,
things and beings in the dream plane. They seem much more
real there when the senses are at rest, but in the waking
state they become mere imaginations. What is considered,
as imagination in the waking state becomes the world of
reality in the Dream State? All the things and all the beings
seen in the dream are a world within ourselves, reflected
from the external world and produced by the power of our
will.
So the judgment Day in reality is not the resurrection
of the whole creation, but of the world produced in each
individual for his trial. The power of the will gathers
and controls the desired vibrations through concentration,
and it is when control is lacking that, instead of the wished
for imaginations, various other pictures are formed, either
agreeable or disagreeable – whatever the vibrations may
happen to form through their contact with each other. In
other words, through self-control man governs his fate;
otherwise he is governed by it.
Lack of will power causes involuntary happiness and sadness.
The disturbing thoughts, which crowd into the mind during
concentration, can only be dispersed by the power of the
will; otherwise the mind will become occupied with agreeable
or disagreeable impressions from the external world against
our desire.
The way of strengthening the will is knowing how to group
and to scatter mental vibrations at will. This can only
be done by forming a mental picture of the grouped vibrations,
making every possible effort to hold this mental picture
steady, keeping the mental plane so occupied with its reflection
that no impression from the external world can enter. Only
those who by will power can scatter the mental vibrations
find the way towards the Universal Spirit, and to them the
divine light is disclosed which is hidden behind the mind.
This light can be found in every creature.
Uncontrolled imaginations form the veil covering the
divine light and cause darkness, which produces delusion.
When the will is able to scatter the clouds and allows the
Inner Light to spread forth its rays, then there is still
one more step to be taken. That is the absorption in the
light: to become so lost in it that the false ego may become
unconscious of itself, which in other words may be called
the state of Eternal Consciousness.
The astral plane, the seat of which is the heart, which
is situated in the midst of the body and the soul, can only
be controlled by a strong love or devotion. Just as the
horse is controlled by the will of the driver, in the same
way a man whose will controls both the driver and the horse
can hold the rein over his action, speech, thought and feeling.
The mind is prone to different temptations and, uncontrolled;
it wanders about like a wild horse in a jungle. The will
produces an object of love and directs the heart to follow
the right path, the path of love, along which one journeys
resisting all temptations met with along the way.
The Sufi idealizes the pangs of love by which the heart
is warmed. The fire of love melts the heart, no matter how
cold and hard it may be; when once it is warmed it can be
molded in whichever way desired. Ice, the frozen condition
of water, cannot reproduce the reflections of which it is
capable in its melted state.
The resisting of temptations during the period of love
helps to expand love, till the object of worship becomes
the whole universe. Then self-control could be gained by
even resisting the idea of the lover and the beloved. In
other words, 'I and you' finally becomes love in its pure
essence.
The Control of the Spirit
A complete realization of the spiritual plane is difficult
for everybody, and only an earnest mureed arrives at this
stage through perseverance in the control of the breath
under the guidance of a Murshid, when all the senses can
be opened or closed at will. The vision he sees and the
phenomenon he experiences there are unknown to the average
man. This state is incredible to those who have received
a worldly knowledge, but have not followed the mystic way.
Only he can control the self, making it rise above the
physical plane, who loses himself in the phenomenon of the
abstract plane. The mureed, holding this phenomenon in his
meditation, becomes so absorbed in it that in the end neither
he nor the phenomenon remains, but only the consciousness
of being.
The Control of Consciousness
This is the control, which liberates the consciousness
from its attachment to the lower planes. That attachment
keeps the consciousness deluded and confined to the earth;
by self-control it can be liberated. Self-consciousness
grows through lack of self-control. Man attaches such importance
to his life that his slightest joy or sorrow becomes of
worldwide importance to him, and thus he becomes prey to
every form of weakness. For it is a natural law that a single
atom of depression gathers the clouds of gloom, and a slight
pain reflected in the consciousness grows into a mountain.
Self-control is the way by which the Sufi makes the consciousness
free from all worldly reflections, thereby attaining the
blankness out of which the whole world was manifested. This
perfection can only be attained by absolute self-control.