- Basics of hospitality
- “Pleasantest of all ties is the tie of host and guest.”—The Libation Bearers, Aeschylus
- What every party should have
- Clean
- Designated smoking area
- Rules posted
- No means no
- No drunks
- Don’t interrupt someone else’s scene
- No pictures or video
- Plenty of toilet paper IN THE BATHROOM
- A “no sex” room for people to escape to
- Finger Food
- No children
- Music/Entertainment
- iPod or DJ
- Games to get things going:
- Pin the penis on the man
- Suck and blow
- Clove and fruit
- Size?
- Residential
- Large — 25 people per public room
- Medium — 18 people per public room
- Small - 12 people per public room
- Note: Not everyone will come at the same time, unless you have a door locks time set. Decrease in size if you do so.
- Commercial
- Capacity dictated by Law.
- No illegal activities permitted
- Ask to close bar or limit to beer and wine
- Residential
- Host vs. participant
- Small — Medium: you can play; you may even be a catalyst. If catalyst, be prepared to act early and often.
- Medium-Large: you need monitors, you are best, but responsible volunteers are good too
- Guest list
- All known to you or one of you’re a-list friends
- Blend of experienced and new and enthusiastic
- Cover charge? I do not recommend itÉ opens you up to vice charges
- Theme?
- Drag/girls night
- Karaoke
- Watch episodes of RuPaul’s Drag Race or Queer Eye
- Open bar/byob
- Sex Toy Parties
- Be sure it is not to be delivered, but onsite to encourage use after
- Dinner Parties
- Velvet Mafia
- Old queens in Jax
- Fancy dinner party
- Served by young hotties who are available for “dessert”
- Look to friends and/or models (catering gig followed by orgy)
- Guess who?
- Remote control vibrating toys
- Must guess who has your remote by end of evening
- Agape dinner
- Can only feed others
- Lounging decadence
- Velvet Mafia
- Costume
- 15th century: It’s good to be the king
- Peasants and Nobles
- Daniel Nardicio-esque
- Underwear only
- Jackoff competition
- Eyes Wide Shut
- Masked
- Sacred sexuality
- 15th century: It’s good to be the king
- Babylon
- Front room — Club Party
- Dance club
- Soap bubbles
- King Competition
- Back room — more versatile
- Anonymous sex
- “furniture”
- bench
- Golden apple
- Front room — Club Party
- White Party
- Circuit party
- Now sometimes a fund raiser, which interferes with gratuitous sex
- Men in White
- Can be replicated on smaller scale in right home
- Black party
- Heavy and hedonistic
- Leather and chain
- Casual — no lasting entanglements, no regrets
- Attendees are a top or a bottom, period.
- S&M
- Little or no alcohol
- Private and public play space
- Provide props
- Furniture
- Dungeon monitor
- Many activities illegal in Massachusetts
- Alcohol and drugs are frowned upon
- Dangerous activities
- Safe, Sane, Consensual
- Risk Aware Consensual Kink (or Risk-Accepted)
- Orgy
- Condoms and lube
- Spontaneous: Plants
- Singles, booty calls, and poly make best guests
- Encourage partners to discuss their boundaries before attending
- No drunks
- Gang Bang
- Not spontaneous
- More than willing volunteer
- Dependable, respectful guests
- Papers
- Supplies
- Drag/girls night
- Parties I do not approve of:
- Bareback parties: gloveless sex parties
- Bug parties: bare and positive.
- Beware bug chasers and gift givers
- Hello?! It is a virus; do not make it stronger through interaction with its variant strains
- PNP (Party and Play)
- Crystal meth most common, cocaine, MDMA, ketamine
- Research shows leads to barebacking, through rebellion or negligence
- How to be a good guest:
- Follow the rules
- Don’t get too inebriated
- Always greet you host
- Always thank your host for a lovely time
- Don’t bring drama with you
- If you came as a couple, leave as a couple (or more)
- Don’t bring people who don’t want to join in
