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<DIV1 TYPE="ballad">
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<HEAD><HI>The Marryed Mans Le&s;&s;on:</HI> OR, Adi&s;&s;wa&s;ion from Iealou&s;ie.</HEAD>
<OPENER>To the tune of, <HI>All you that will wore a wench.</HI></OPENER>
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<LG>
<L>YOu men who are marri'd come hearken to m&eacute;e,</L>
<L>I'le teach you a Le&s;&s;on if wi&s;e you will b&eacute;e,</L>
<L>Then take my advice that's intended for good,</L>
<L>and &s;o 'tis if it bee but well under&s;tood:</L>
<L>'T will cau&s;e you to &s;hun all contention and &s;pl&eacute;ene,</L>
<L>that daily betwixt man and woman are &s;&eacute;ene,</L>
<L>I &s;peake again&s;t iealou&s;ie that mon&s;ter fierce.</L>
<L>and wi&s;h I could conquer the Fiend with my ver&s;e,</L>
<L><HI>O Be not thou jealous I prethee deere Lad,</HI></L>
<L><HI>for jelou&s;ie makes many good women bad.</HI></L>
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<LG>
<L>If thou have a good wife then I &s;h&eacute;e advi&s;e</L>
<L>to cheri&s;h her well for &s;h&eacute;e is a rare prize,</L>
<L>If &s;hee bee indifferent betweene good and bad,</L>
<L>good meanes to reforme her may ea&s;ily be had:</L>
<L>If &s;hee vee &s;o evill that there is few wor&s;e,</L>
<L>imagin thy &s;innes have de&s;erved that cur&s;e,</L>
<L>Then beare with true patience thy cro&s;&s;e as 'tis fit,</L>
<L>and thou to a ble&s;&s;ing thereby mai&s;t turne it.</L>
<L><HI>But be not, &amp;c.</HI></L>
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<LG>
<L>Betw&eacute;ene the&s;e 3. winds the good, bad, &amp; the meane,</L>
<L>I ground the whole argument of this my Theme,</L>
<L>For in them a mans humane bli&s;&s;e, or his woe,</L>
<L>doth chiefly con&s;i&s;t as experience doth &s;how:</L>
<L>Thus is it not coun&s;ell that's worthy regard,</L>
<L>which teacheth to &s;often a thing that is hard,</L>
<L>And what I intend is in every mans will,</L>
<L>to turne to a vertue what &s;&eacute;emeth mo&s;t ill.</L>
<L><HI>Then be, &amp;c.</HI></L>
</LG>
<LG>
<L>A wife that is good b&eacute;eing beautifull, may</L>
<L>perhapps rai&s;e &s;u&s;pition that &s;h&eacute;e'l goe a&s;tray,</L>
<L>O note the fond humours that mo&s;t men po&s;&s;e&s;&s;e,</L>
<L>they'r neither content with the more nor the le&s;&s;e,</L>
<L>For if &s;h&eacute;e b&eacute;e homely, then her h&eacute;e will &s;light,</L>
<L>to &s;uch neither faire, nor foule, can y&eacute;eld delight,</L>
<L>If once h&eacute;ele b&eacute;e jealous the other h&eacute;e &s;cornes,</L>
<L>there's no greater plagues then imagined hornes.</L>
<L><HI>Then be not, &amp;c.</HI></L>
</LG>
<LG>
<L>A wife that's indifferent betw&eacute;ene good and ill,</L>
<L>is &s;h&eacute;e that in hu&s;wifery &s;hewes her good will,</L>
<L>Yet &s;ometimes her voyce &s;h&eacute;e too much elevates,</L>
<L>is that the occa&s;ion for which her h&eacute;e hates:</L>
<L>A &s;overaigne remedy for this di&s;ea&s;e,</L>
<L>is to hold thy tongue let her &s;ay what &s;h&eacute;e plea&s;e:</L>
<L>Iudge, is not this better then to fight and &s;cratch,</L>
<L>for &s;ilence will &s;oone&s;t a Shrew over match.</L>
<L><HI>However I pray thee &s;hun jealou&s;ie Lad,</HI></L>
<L><HI>for jealou&s;ie makes many good women bad.</HI></L>
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<LG>
<L>A wife that's all bad if thy lucke b&eacute;e to have,</L>
<L>&s;eeke not to reclaime her by making her &s;lave,</L>
<L>If &s;h&eacute;e bee as bad as ever frod one ground,</L>
<L>not fighting nor jealou&s;ie will heale that wound:</L>
<L>For marke when a River is &s;topt in its cour&s;e,</L>
<L>it oreflowes the bankes then the danger is wor&s;e.</L>
<L>Thy owne good example and patience with all,</L>
<L>may her from her vices much rather recall.</L>
<L><HI>Then be not, &amp;c.</HI></L>
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<DIV2 N="2" TYPE="part">
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<HEAD>The &s;econd part.</HEAD>
<OPENER>To the &s;ame tune.</OPENER>
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<L><HI>A</HI> Wife that is vertuous in every re&s;pect,</L>
<L>who doth her vow'd duety at no time neglect,</L>
<L>Shaes not free from cen&s;ure, for fooles their bolts &s;hoote</L>
<L>as oft at the head as they doe at the foote:</L>
<L>A ki&s;&s;e, or a &s;mile, or a Ie&s;t, or a dance,</L>
<L>familior di&s;cour&s;e or an amarous glance,</L>
<L>All the&s;e as her witne&s;&s;e envy doth bring,</L>
<L>the credit of innocent women to &s;ting.</L>
<L><HI>But be not thou jealous I pray thee deare Lad,</HI></L>
<L><HI>for jealou&s;ie makes many good women bad.</HI></L>
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<LG>
<L>A wife that's indifferent if curb'd over much,</L>
<L>will grow wor&s;e &amp; wor&s;e for their nature is &s;uch,</L>
<L>The more thou with rigor do&s;t &s;&eacute;eke her to mend,</L>
<L>the more they'l per&s;i&s;t and grow de&s;perat i'th end,</L>
<L>And thus from indifferency wanting good meanes,</L>
<L>Some wel meaning women turn impudie~t queans,</L>
<L>if goodne&s;&s;e by beating thou &s;&eacute;ek'&s;t to infu&s;e,</L>
<L>For breaking her fle&s;h thou all goodne&s;&s;e do&s;t bru&s;e.</L>
<L><HI>Then be not, &amp;c.</HI></L>
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<L>A wife at the wor&s;t (as I told you before)</L>
<L>a drunkard, a &s;wearer, a &s;cold, th&eacute;efe, or whore,</L>
<L>By gentle per&s;wa&s;ions, reclaimed may bee,</L>
<L>my &s;elfe by experience, but lately did &s;&eacute;e:</L>
<L>A man that with jealou&s;ie plagued had b&eacute;ene,</L>
<L>when h&eacute;e the la&s;t labour and trouble had &s;&eacute;ene,</L>
<L>H&eacute;e ca&s;t off his care, and referd all to's wife,</L>
<L>who &s;oone left her vices and led a new life.</L>
<L><HI>Then be not, &amp;c.</HI></L>
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<LG>
<L>I al&s;o have knowne a wife hand&s;ome and neate,</L>
<L>of whom her fond hu&s;band did take a conceate,</L>
<L>That other men lov'd her becau&s;e &s;h&eacute;e was faire,</L>
<L>though on the contrary, to him &s;h&eacute;e did &s;weare:</L>
<L>H&eacute;e watcht her, h&eacute;e ey'd her, h&eacute;e noted her wayes,</L>
<L>and once h&eacute;e in's drink, he a &s;candall would rai&s;e,</L>
<L>This u&s;age irregular &s;et her on fier,</L>
<L>&amp; &s;o from thence foreward &s;h&eacute;e provd him no lyer,</L>
<L><HI>Then be not, &amp;c.</HI></L>
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<L>Con&s;ider each circum&s;tance with good regard,</L>
<L>how oft cau&s;e le&s;&s;e jelou&s;ie wins due reward,</L>
<L>And likewi&s;e I wi&s;h th&eacute;e to beare in thy bre&s;t,</L>
<L>that patience and quietnes &s;till is the be&s;t.</L>
<L>For if &s;he benought &s;he'le grow wor&s;e with re&s;traint</L>
<L>but patience may make of a harlot, a Saint,</L>
<L>If faire meanes prevaile not, thou'lt ne're do't by foule</L>
<L>for m&eacute;ekene&s;&s;e (if any thing) mu&s;t win a &s;oule</L>
<L><HI>Then be not, &amp;c.</HI></L>
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<L>Now la&s;tly to both men and women I &s;peake,</L>
<L>from this fooli&s;h fancy their humors to breake,</L>
<L>B&eacute;e loving and tractable each unto other,</L>
<L>and what is ami&s;&s;e let affection &s;till &s;mother:</L>
<L>So &s;hall man and wife in a &s;impathy &s;w&eacute;et,</L>
<L>at boorde, and at bed (as they ought to doe) m&eacute;ete,</L>
<L>All fighting and &s;cratching, and &s;colding &s;hall cea&s;e,</L>
<L>where jelou&s;ies harbord there can b&eacute;e no peace.</L>
<L><HI>Then be not thou jaelous I pray thee deare Lad,</HI></L>
<L><HI>for jealou&s;ie makes many good women bad.</HI></L>
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<TRAILER>FINIS.</TRAILER>
<CLOSER><SIGNED>M. P.</SIGNED></CLOSER>
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<P>Printed at LONDON for <HI>Iohn Wright,</HI> the younger, dwelling at the Signe of the Sunne, at the lower end of Snow-hill, neere un|to Holborne Conduit.</P>
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